Just proof that God has a sense of humor.
Sometimes I don't see how two people of the same species can be so entirely opposite. And therein lies the beauty of it. Hopelessly drawn to each other, decade after decade. We have somehow managed to not die out. Somehow managed to make it work, despite our obvious differences. Lovers are found, families created, and lives propelled forward to continue the cycle.
I'm no exception to the age old theory that opposite attract. I've also had a weakness for men in my life. Men that need fixing. I tend to be a fixer. I like to hear/see a problem and think of a solution. I do have doses of empathy and sympathy, but I'm not a large fan of complaining without thinking of a solution. I'm also a big believer in people- in their worth, in their potential, in the great gifts they have been given, in their talents, and in encouraging them to use them. However, in the past (and unfortunately, I'm sure in my future as well) I have been too far ahead of those I'm trying to "fix". I have always struggled with the concept of "to each their own" and it is something I have only recently begun to really live by. Don't get me wrong, I believe that we should all have compassion for one another, we should all seek to empathize with each other, we should all live Ubuntu, but not everyone is on the same path. Not everyone is made of the same fabric. It is our differences, our personalities that make this world so wonderfully big and beautiful
So in the past year and a half that I have really been trying to do some soul searching, changing the way I do relationships has been on the agenda.
And what do you know, when I least expected it, I had this wonderfully, completely opposite man drop into my life. Someone who mutually revels in the joy that is in every moment of life, and yet someone who sees the world in a completely different way from me. Someone who is spontaneous for my planning. Someone who is laid back for my high strung. Someone who is outgoing for my occasional quietness. Someone who lives deeply in each and every moment for my eternal future outlook. And although I don't know exactly where this relationship will head, I know that I want to do it differently than before. I want to do it right this time. I want to stop looking for excuses, reasons to leave, things to fix and I want to start seeing this incredible person before my eyes.
I stumbled (literally! via stumbleupon.com) across this quote and can't help but share it, in all its magnificence:
After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t mean security, and you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises, and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child, and you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure… that you really are strong, and you really do have worth.
~Veronica A. Shoffstall
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